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102 || MOST FITNESS || JUNE / JULY 2016MFM: What are your top five tips for couples to reactivate those butterflies and passion in the bedroom that they had in the beginning of their relationship? Dr. GM: 1. Start dating again and re-get to know each other. People change through the years, so learning about your partner is a must. 2. Learn to be intimate! Explore each other's bodies and find out your partner%u2019s biggest turn-ons and turn-offs. 3. Don't lose individuality. The reason you were turned on by your partner when you first met was because that person excited you. Remember what it was that attracted you to them in the first place. Was it their sense of humor, the way their friends admired them, or maybe it was their ability to make you feel secure and comforted when you needed to feel loved. 4. Bring in some fantasy! Whenever I meet someone that's having an affair, I always tell them if you spent as much time doing these secretive things with your partner, you would have a great relationship! Meet at a hotel for an afternoon fling, or send sexy text messages. The biggest phrase I hear from affairs is, \Bring that feeling into your relationship. 5. Always look forward to something. Take some time in the late afternoon or before bed to bring out your laptop or a magazine and plan a vacation or some fun dates. I give my couples the fish bowl exercise. Write down on little pieces of paper fun places and things to do. Pick one a week and do it! Being spontaneous is the key to keep things fresh and exciting!MFM: Based on your experience in the industry, what do you think is the most common issue people face in their quest to experiencing a more fulfilling and meaningful life, and how do you recommend they overcome? Dr. GM: The most common issue people face is themselves and their negative talk. We have been given so many messages throughout our lives starting from childhood. Some of those messages are good, but some are bad. We turn these messages into a negative sense of self, and it turns into our reality. The biggest mistake is always searching for your life to be meaningful. Learning to live each day with purpose and meaning will give us ultimate fulfillment!MFM: How do you recommend couples or individuals know when therapy is needed or it is the time to seek help? Dr. GM: I think there's never a right or wrong time to seek help. Sometimes couples or individuals come in for therapy because they need a quick little refresher to make sure they are communicating right and sometimes people come in because they are facing a big issue. If you feel like your life is in a standstill and you need some answers, then that's a good sign to see professional help.