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44 || FITNESS MAGAZINE || JUNE 2015 || EDITION 2home, but there is a small market for mansions. Tosca says she has learned the biggest lesson she could have imagined. %u201cBut I also learned I have the power of yes and no.%u201d Now Tosca is working to bring her career to life and establish financial stability. She has written a new book about resilience, a story about Robert%u2019s cancer and what happened over the past two years. When her publisher read it, this was put to her, %u201cThat is a great story about Bob, but you are missing from the picture.%u201d %u201cI never thought it could be about me. I did not think I had permission to write about my side of the story because I did not think it mattered.%u201d She knows now how much she mattered.What she is learning from this whole experience; first is the wonderful, beautiful power of %u201cno.%u201d And one thing: Tosca has always been an optimist. I never got the victim feeling from her nor the feeling that there is nothing she could do about her situation. But in her rawness of telling her story she hopes to empower other spouses to help others evaluate their emotional habits.I admire her attitude of responsibility and perseverance. She is and will come back, this time with four daughters. After Robert%u2019s death, Tosca asked his daughter Chelsea if she wanted to be adopted. With a yes, her daughter team became four.Chelsea is the youngest of her four at 22. Tosca describes her as logical beyond reason, deep - trying to shed her teenage years and come into womanhood. She says Chelsea has handled her layers of tragedy with both sadness and grace. %u201cIt has been a beautiful process to watch.%u201dKelsey, 24, is production assistant at an advertising agency, she is %u201ccreative and stubborn%u201d, a classically trained dancer, and photographer. Kelsey had a lot to do with newest iteration of Tosca%u2019s website. Kiersten 27 has a Masters in Integrated Marketing and Science Communication from Northwestern University. She is working in Chicago in the US at a company that takes social media data and writes algorithms to leverage that data. At 30, her daughter Rachel is married, living with Scratch Golfer husband. Rachel is a Naturopathic Doctor and Tosca can go to her regarding medical advice. As you can see, she has built a dream team of daughter to help her with this journey back. With the tragedies for all the women in her house, they have embraced counseling and its value. We talked about social stigmas of mental health in Canada and the United States. It is still stigmatized in Canada she says, but we have to talk about it. We all need to talk about depression, talk about all the emotional tugs in our heads. She feels she is upfront with her girls and honest about her feelings. %u201cIf you do not deal with your emotions, your emotions will deal with you.%u201d Tosca says she has learned to set boundaries and is starting to accept that she is just as important as anyone else. Life requires that she is diligent about taking care of herself, working out, meditating, and nourishing herself. She allows herself the negative and the bad, embracing them and moving on. %u201cI know it is a bumpy ride, but I am not going down with the Titanic.%u201d